I was coaching a beginner last weekend who had strong AA and was inspired to write this post. One of the key tenets of learning Daygame is to only focus on taking the next smallest step forward. Sometimes literally.
When you see a girl and you feel that familiar invisible wall materialise in front of you, I want you to do one thing and one thing only: take a tiny step towards her. If you can do that, take another, and another and another. Oftentimes the most difficult thing for us to do when we’re scared is to begin the process. It’s not the doing that’s hard, it’s the starting.
The same can be done for everything you’re scared of doing but have been putting off in your life:
- Don’t want to start that project? Just open the app – Excel, Powerpoint, etc – and make the file. You can close it straight away after.
- Feeling AA before your session, just tell yourself to put your shoes on or brush your teeth (the next baby step).
- Don’t want to go to the gym? Just walk inside the gym and walk straight back out again.
Okay, I admit to trying to trick you here. I know that in encouraging you to take the first possible baby step that you’re likely to take more and do the thing, but it’s also totally fine if you don’t do it. Over time you’ll improve. That’s tough for a lot of guys to accept. The student from last weekend kept on joking that “[he] must be the worst student I’ve ever had.” If anything, I’ve seen people with much worse AA than this guy had, but the point I stressed to him is that every single step is a victory. We have to start somewhere and we only need to ensure that we keep on going.
If you need help starting out, then click the links below. If you’re a beginner, then I’m running a bootcamp in March that you’ll probably be interested in too.
Yours unfaithfully,
Thomas Crown
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