Here’s an excerpt from the second draft of my upcoming memoir, Demolition Lovers. Progress has retarded enormously; the task of redrafting a whole chapter when I return from work just seems too daunting. I need to kick myself up the arse. This is a concept which I think I’ll be bringing up a lot in … Continue reading 11/30: Classical vs Romantic Thinking →

This is something I’ve been trying recently, having been inspired by Krauser’s post on hook point and Philander’s mini-series on his residential with him: whenever possible, don’t do the Yad stop. Meaning: if she gives me an IOI before I go into set I’ll yell “excuse me!” as loudly as possible to get her attention. … Continue reading 10/30: Minimising Yad Stops →

This leads on from yesterday’s bulletin on Jordan Peterson. One of the biggest revelations I’ve had from consuming his material is finding out about how conscientiousness links to disgust. Now I can’t stop seeing it everywhere I look. There’s the classic kind of disgust, the kind you feel for something unhygienic. But there’s another kind … Continue reading 9/30: Disgust →

To confirm: I like him. I think it was natural that I would get on-board with his message considering that I’ve read about Jung, archetypes, and the monomyth before even hearing about him. I’m currently working my way through his podcasts and also through his lecture series, albeit at a slower pace. I’ve not read … Continue reading 8/30: My Thoughts on Jordan Peterson →

This is actually something I’ve read very little about. I’ve seen name-PUAs screenshots and so have observed their patterns of response, and I remember Tom Torero’s video on texting (the Dynamo one) where he says take a third longer to reply. But still, very little. There might be a reason to that: the advice is … Continue reading 7/30: Texting Response Times →

I went on an i-date on Saturday at the end of the day: 21 years old, grew up in Madagascar but then moved to Paris when she was 18 to study. Gwenn had decided to book a flight to London for the bank holiday weekend (Whit Monday, I believe, in France). She booked the tickets … Continue reading 6/30: A Recent I-Date →

This is something I’ve been thinking about for a while, and it’s the use of disclaimers in a lot of content, especially the content aimed at beginners. I don’t mean this as a finger pointing exercise, but I notice it the most in Tom Torero’s material. Now, I understand why he has to say things … Continue reading 5/30: Daygame Disclaimers →

And now for something completely different. One thing I’ve been forgetting to do recently is qualify in set. It’s such a key element but for a while it completely slipped my mind. So I set myself a rule, I always try to find out three pieces of information in-set, and qualify on all of them. … Continue reading 4/30: Qualification →

This analysis wouldn’t be complete without me talking about myself. Perhaps the question is: am I the one to have gone full r? Maybe my biology has shifted now so that I instinctively pick out the r traits in girls. Perhaps they were always there but they just didn’t have value for me, so I … Continue reading 3/30: London’s Gone Full r (3) →

Today I want to explore the implications of this from a dating perspective. I think that’s where more of the variation comes from, considering the Daygame itself is more like a string of set pieces. On a date, you have to show your real self, and if she finds out that you’re not the real … Continue reading 2/30: London’s Gone Full r (2) →