I wanted to write this post because it is one of the most common sticking points I see when it comes to stopping and opening a girl. Let’s start with an analogy:
You’re a teenager and you’re at home, listening to music. You’ve clearly got headphones on. One of your parents walks into the room and starts talking at you. They should be able to see that you’ve got headphones in and yet they just start talking. By the time you’ve taken them out to hear what they’ve got to say, they’re already half way through whatever it is. You interrupt them to get them to start again. It starts an argument. You storm off.
This is exactly what a lot of guys do when they approach girls. They gesture for her to stop and then before she’s even had a chance to, let alone take her headphones out and orient herself to them, they’re already speeding through their opener. The girl gets confused. The guy has to repeat his opener. The girl feels that she’s being subject to a shoddy pick-up attempt and wants to go.
Don’t let this be you.
When you try to stop a girl, you begin with your stopping words i.e. “hey, excuse me, hey, you, stop, hey, etc. etc.” You need to imagine that these words are a battering ram of sound to get her attention. It doesn’t matter what the words are. You could even go over and start listing fruit if you really wanted to. The point is that once your presence enters hers and starts interacting with it there’s a short period – it may only last a few seconds – where you are attempting to dominate her frame and encourage her to slow down, stop and hear you out.
If you try to launch into the rest of your opener straight away it will make her confused and that’s one of the most unattractive emotions to inspire in a girl. It will be way less likely for her frame to accept yours if you do this.
You can try this out at the gym. You’ll often go over to a machine or station and ask someone how many sets they have left. Practice getting their attention fully first before asking them the question. It’s a much, much smoother way of doing things.
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Yours unfaithfully,
Thomas Crown
P.S. I’m on holiday in Prague for the next few days and not even for Daygame! I’ll be back next week with more content.
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