I’ve noticed recently that beginners often have this one weird sticking point/tick: they’re always trying to have everything. No, I don’t mean that in the “you go grrrrl you can have whatever you want” vein. I also am not talking about the idea that because they’re not “6 ‘5, blue eyes, finance” that they shouldn’t be approaching hot girls. I’m talking about how they try to hedge for every single situation.
They leave the house with a backpack with everything they might need given rain or shine, packed streets or empty. They schedule dates one hour before their kickboxing class so they have an excuse to leave if they need one. They set dates during the late afternoon so they can get to bed by 9pm so they can wake up at 5am the next day after a solid eight hours sleep.
No, no, no! If any of that describes you, you have to realise something:
Winners win *and* lose more than losers
Winners don’t try to hedge every eventuality in their life. They simply go for gold because they expect to succeed and know that sometimes they’ll be left. Failing sometimes is a vital part of being a winner and that’s what losers* don’t realise. They think that the winners are infallible.
It’s actually just another display of having an avoidant personality. No, not avoidance, as in, not approaching, although they do suffer from that too. It’s being avoidant in wanting to push people away from them as a first resort. The desire to stand alone as an entirely self-sufficient rock. In real life, you have to depend on other people to some extent. You have to open yourself up to others, and by extension, events, in which you may not come out on top.
If you want to learn to be a winner, you have to learn to both win and lose. For help with that, click the links below.
Yours unfaithfully,
Thomas Crown
* I’m not trying to insult people here but the winner/loser dichotomy is useful for catching eyeballs.
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