This analysis wouldn’t be complete without me talking about myself. Perhaps the question is: am I the one to have gone full r? Maybe my biology has shifted now so that I instinctively pick out the r traits in girls. Perhaps they were always there but they just didn’t have value for me, so I didn’t notice them.
On dates, maybe I’m the one you exudes the r image and therefore I’m the one instigating the filtering. After some dates, and the girl drops off the hook, I say to myself “I should have pushed harder on that one, I think that’s what she was expecting.”
As always, I’m drawn back to the concept of age. I imagine that girls would never expect a 25 year old guy to play it slow (by my standards), and if he did then he was angling to make her his girlfriend. In that case, there’s violation of expectation and rejection. In contrast, it is easier to imagine a guy in his mid-thirties to go on more than one date, which would mean that the violation never occurred. Then again (I know I’m going back and forth on this one), maybe because of the guy being at peak SMV the girl actually “suffers” the mistake of waiting for the second date.
The interesting thing about this phenomenon is that it doesn’t make Daygame strictly better. If you contact a girl after sex, hoping to make her a regular, she doesn’t like it because it violates your image as the pump-n-dump-er. It exacerbates the volatility of your experience and your happiness takes on a feast and famine nature. It also makes you doubt Game as a skillset because you’re filtering more. It loses the strategic nature and takes on more of a “hit and hope” one.