This analysis wouldn’t be complete without me talking about myself. Perhaps the question is: am I the one to have gone full r? Maybe my biology has shifted now so that I instinctively pick out the r traits in girls. Perhaps they were always there but they just didn’t have value for me, so I didn’t notice them.
On dates, maybe I’m the one you exudes the r image and therefore I’m the one instigating the filtering. After some dates, and the girl drops off the hook, I say to myself “I should have pushed harder on that one, I think that’s what she was expecting.”
As always, I’m drawn back to the concept of age. I imagine that girls would never expect a 25 year old guy to play it slow (by my standards), and if he did then he was angling to make her his girlfriend. In that case, there’s violation of expectation and rejection. In contrast, it is easier to imagine a guy in his mid-thirties to go on more than one date, which would mean that the violation never occurred. Then again (I know I’m going back and forth on this one), maybe because of the guy being at peak SMV the girl actually “suffers” the mistake of waiting for the second date.
The interesting thing about this phenomenon is that it doesn’t make Daygame strictly better. If you contact a girl after sex, hoping to make her a regular, she doesn’t like it because it violates your image as the pump-n-dump-er. It exacerbates the volatility of your experience and your happiness takes on a feast and famine nature. It also makes you doubt Game as a skillset because you’re filtering more. It loses the strategic nature and takes on more of a “hit and hope” one.
2 thoughts on “3/30: London’s Gone Full r (3)”
‘… concept of age.’
I like that. It’s just a (flawed) CONCEPT. I should be hitting the streets even at 50+
‘…because of the guy being at peak SMV the girl actually “suffers” the mistake of waiting for the second date.’ – I shall internalise this.
‘If you contact a girl after sex, hoping to make her a regular, she doesn’t like it because it violates your image as the pump-n-dump-er.’ – is this a rumination, a concept, or did it actually happen to you? Of course, you should not change your persona from pump-n-dumper bad boy to clingy Nice Guy. But unless a girl is embarrassed about how far she went so quickly and is afraid of the Secret Society drug (or simply due to logistics), why wouldn’t she want to see her dominant, doesn’t-give-shit fb again?
The whole “suffering the mistake” thing: this is only a theory.
Wrt your second point:
– it’s happened to me a few times; we agree a FB relationship and then she doesn’t reply or blocks me. That or she sees me once again but then never after that.
– could be buyer’s remorse
– could be an internal battle of good girl Vs bad girl (“only bad girls have casual sex and I’m not a bad girl”)
– you might be violating the story as she sees it (Daygame Infinite story 1)
– she might have a lower sex drive which can be satisfied by guys who will date her
There are many reasons why girls might not want to come to your house every other week purely for sex. As I said in the harem manager post it takes a particular combination for a 5 star FB