Infield Analysis of Mr T

A friend of mine sent me this video by St Robert where he analysed an infield which had been sent to him by “Mr T” (unfortunately not the one from the A-Team). The friend wanted to know what I thought and I made enough notes as I went through that I thought I could throw it out there as its own post. Here’s the original video:

What follows are my thoughts; I paused the infield every time Robert did and wrote my own notes before listening to what he had to say. I mostly agree with Robert’s analysis but this is my take (plus I didn’t want to have to analyse the infield and analyse the analysis at the same time!).

Last thing I want to say is that I don’t want this to come across as me hating on the guy. This happened to be the infield he sent to St Robert and it might not be representative. Robert might have asked for one like this in the first place. I don’t know. All that follows is what I would say to someone to improve if someone sent this to me.

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• Opener and compliment sounds spontaneous but he could make it more specific to her than simply “nice” i.e. what about her really drew you in? Was it her face, smile, eyes, hair, style, walk, arse/tits (but don’t say that, say “figure” instead). Strong authentic compliments are more direct and show more intent and most importantly convey the emotion you feel in that moment. If you express how you feel this is the strongest frame (the honest one). This injects emotional energy into a set which is something a girl can pick up on and feed off of. In contrast to that, if you’re spam approaching and treating girls like homogenous products on an assembly line then you won’t be able to bring that emotional energy into the set. Not to say Mr T is doing this, it’s just a point I wanted to make.
• He doesn’t tease or make any kind of observation about her after the compliment; this was a chance to show creativity and intellectually stimulate her a bit and most importantly, have fun!
• Goes straight into a stack with an upturned inflection
• Missed opportunity to be playfully disagreeable: “Wait… [strong eye contact]… there’s absolutely *no way* you’re American.” (playful disagreeability another way to bring fun into the conversation)
• Conversation dips in energy as it gets bogged down in logical talk of where are you from. You should learn about where the other person is from but better to be illogical and go with the flow of the conversation: try to find something small about her and blow it up out of proportion (what does where she’s from say about her?)
• Her tone on him saying he lived in Soma – she says “cool” – is telling. I don’t hear enthusiasm and interest there. Energy has dropped and now the conversation is in boring mode. She’ll be looking for a way out. Imagine you’re in the street and a charity person starts talking to you: you’re only then looking for the opportunity to leave. This is where the girl is right now.
• We find out she’s in finance: this is by no means a dealbreaker but it would have been interesting to see what she looked like pre-approach and whether we could have spotted signs that she wasn’t the sort that’s usually amenable to Daygame or to the Daygamer himself.
• In 99%+ of cases you can’t revive the energy of a set: once it’s dipped into boring mode you aren’t going back. At this point it comes across as try-hard trying to raise the energy. Better to move on from the set at this point by saying “You know I’m hitting on you right?” Most likely she’ll say something along the lines of “yeah but I have a boyfriend.” That gives you a graceful way to exit the set and wish each other well: leaving on a high note so your vibe doesn’t take a big hit. Of course, there’s a tiny chance she’ll say that she’s just shy/introverted and a bit surprised to be talking to someone right now (in which case continue the set).
• That’s a common question I get from guys: what do I do when the energy drops? The answer, I’m afraid, is to cut your losses, and do your best to stop it from dropping in future.
• This all came from not injecting energy into the start of the set: it was purely “you look nice” then into a logical guessing game of “where are you from?” A good set is like lighting a fire, blowing a bubble, it takes two to tango, etc, where you get it started then you both join in. WALKING UP TO A GIRL AND GIVING HER A WEAK COMPLIMENT IS NOT ENOUGH.
• DLV: “I’m not social. I’m so introverted. Most of the time I’m staring at a screen.” Of course it’s fine to be introverted but don’t downplay yourself. Talk about the pluses of being an introvert e.g. rather than “I like to be alone and go for hikes” it’s “I like to go out into nature and away from all the buzz. It’s so peaceful.” You can find a positive in everything you do even if it’s not something the “All American Hero” would: find the positives and stress them.
• Throwing in that he does photography (in this context) comes across as qualifying. As if he’s saying “no wait there are interesting things about me. Honest!”
• Confirmation of her non-interest: “Well it was nice to meet you.” (she’s trying to exit)
• Heading into bad vibe/creepy Daygame territory when he doesn’t take no for an answer (when he insists she tell him his age)

Yours unfaithfully,

Thomas Crown

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