Previous Parts:
- Part One: The Beginning
- Part Two: My Last Year in Game, Part Two: My First Year / Obsessively and Complusively Daygaming
I’m (very) slowly writing a series of posts about my last year in Game. I’ll repeat: I’ll still be coaching, just not approaching for myself because I want to start a family. The first two posts in this series told my story of how I got into Daygame, but today I want to talk about how I feel leaving the Game and specifically to talk about sacrifice. This was a point that Breeze and I covered on our podcast on Endgame (link here) and it stemmed from the most common question guys ask me about my decision to end my Daygame career:
“How do you turn it off?”
I’m very lucky in that I’ve always had a lot of will. That I could control how I reacted to different things and act in a way that benefitted me in the long term rather than simply going for the short term gratification. I think that skill is going to be of great use in the next phase of my life’s adventure because at some point, as a man, I think you have to sacrifice.
I’m not saying anything new here, by any means. It’s long been said that men have to sacrifice for their families and society in general. I don’t want to get into any “enjoy the decline” and “women are toxic and so don’t deserve our sacrifice” arguments because, in my opinion, they’re flawed, because you get to choose which society you’re a part of and which women you allow into your life. If I was being harsh I would say that the kind of men who say those things are the ones who wouldn’t have anything to sacrifice for.
The specific sacrifice I have to talk about with guys is that of knowing that there are opportunities for sex walking around you, all the time, but that you choose not to act on them. They imagine that you’ll be walking around with your wife and kids and of course you’ll be divorced soon and of course your wife is draining away every last ounce of your masculinity and just then… An absolutely gorgeous girl walks by and gives you a massive IOI.
The simplest answer I can give to them is that I know that having a strong family structure is the best environment for children to grow up in and that foregoing those opportunities is the best way to create that environment. That’s where you have to have will and that’s where you have to make a sacrifice. Of course, I’m not saying that the girl who walks by isn’t attractive, but the choice you have to make is between the wellbeing of your children versus the momentary pleasure of that one girl. I’m at a point in my life where that choice is an easy one, and I’ll come back to this point later.
Another piece of luck I’ve benefitted from is starting my Daygame journey when I was much younger than the usual Daygame novice. I was only 23 when I started and so will have had over eight years of Daygame behind me when I finish. I’ve had my innings and have reached a great score. Time to go out on a high and declare the whole thing an umitigated success.
In my personal opinion, that question often comes out of a place of scarcity. How could you let opportunities go by when you could so easily reach out and take them? All I can say is that once you have the right girl and you’ve already gone after so many opportunities in the past that it doesn’t bother you any more. There are new mountains to climb. Even if “she was like super hot bro?!” Yep, even then. I’ve slept with more eights than most guys have had lifetime lays so I’m genuinely not bothered about letting them go past. So even if it came to “that gorgeous girl walking by” I’d only have to look at her and then look at my family and know I was making the right choice.
I’m sorry that that will have come across as bragging – that’s something I try to minimise – but I wanted to highlight the fact that, yes, you have to sacrifice, but I’m at a point where it doesn’t even feel as if I’m sacrificing much any more. In the battle between quality and quantity of experience I think I’ve had the highest quality experiences possible from Daygame. All that would be left is to have a greater quantity of experiences and that’s not how I want to live my life.
Yours unfaithfully,
Thomas Crown
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