Why I Won’t Post +1’s Anymore

“If you get laid and don’t post a +1, did you even get laid?”

I saw this tweet by Naughty Nomad all the way back in April and it really struck a chord:

Let's admit it, lads.

Posting "receipts" and the +1 notch count thing is just not cool after a certain point.

I did it my entire 20s & got praised for it, but ultimately, on reflection, I now see a lot of PUA spaces were just support groups for narcissism.

That's a red pill.

— ZOLO 🏴‍☠️ (@NaughtyNomad) April 28, 2023

I asked myself: what do I gain from posting them? Am I letting my followers on Twitter know how I’m getting on because they’re interested? Or maybe just letting my friends know how a date went? Am I keeping a log of my lays for myself to refer back to later on? Or am I just trying to get narcissistic supply? Or perhaps just for the dopamine hit from seeing my notifications window in Twitter have a higher number above it?

In reality, I get nothing from posting a +1.

This is a big problem with Twitter and other hyperstimulators: they can rewire your brain to be motivated by something which isn’t real; something which can warp your interaction with the real world. You start to think about the +1 tweet more than the experience itself and become driven by it. And ultimately, who are the source of those likes? You’ve never met and will likely never meet 95% (or more) of your Twitter followers. I’m sure that they are, by and large, nice people, but it’s crazy to live for the validation of people you’ve never met.

+1’s are also a “great” tool in sustaining the ego bubble (false, idealised self) of a narcissist. It doesn’t matter how many relationships and friendships that you burn because there will always be new Twitter accounts ready to simp for you. Krauser brought up this exact point in Daygame Infinite: that a guy can get into pick-up and can indefinitely support his false idealised self. With Twitter, that support can be put on steroids.

Altogether, I want to rewire my brain away from dopamine hyperstimulators such as posting +1’s to Twitter and generally using Twitter for narcissistic supply; to me that includes session and date updates as well as posting stats (which I’ve not been keeping for most of the year anyway) and generally any bragging. This links into my post on the Easy Peasy method: I see porn, as well as Twitter dick waving, as something which “I get nothing from.” I’ve uninstalled the Twitter app from my phone, along with Instagram, and after a week I’ve noticed that I’m pointlessly checking it – and so I guess/hope, caring about it – less.

And if the selfish reason of “I want to rewire my brain and feel better” isn’t enough, how about the altruistic one? Whenever we see a +1, unless it’s from an absolute beginner or someone on a dry streak, we feel a moment of congratulations quickly followed by a tinge of jealousy: no one wants another man to be getting more than them. Let’s be honest here, it truly is the case! We’re hardwired to want more access to more sex, even if we’re already pretty happy with what we have. If you forgo posting a +1 then you stop other people from feeling this way.

Add to that the fact that each +1 tweet is designed to garner the most likes and so naturally the tweeter will make themselves look as good as they possibly can and leave out important points. That could include their looks relative to the girl or whether she was extremely on from the start, or they focus on one aspect of the girl and omit others: for example, she had huge boobs (but she was overweight) and she had dressed up really fancily (but she had fake eyelashes and lip-filler and was a sloppy tart).

The bottom line, for me, is that I use Twitter as a tool for marketing, and so I won’t be deleting my account. I’ll also continue my policy to like any +1 that I see (but I don’t see so many because I make hefty use of the mute feature). I’ve also posted my own +1’s for a long time, and so I’ll be the first to admit that I’m no angel. But from now on my Twitter account will be there for some funny personal anecdotes and to promote my products through content marketing and giving actionable advice, not for bragging.

I’m sure some people read this and say “you’re only doing this because you’re not getting enough lays” (enough +1’s), but that’s wrong: I hit my average lay target each year and am happy about it. Sure, I’d always say yes to more if it was offered up to me on a plate, but I am truly happy with where I am. Someone could also say “we want to know you’re walking the walk.” Well, again, if you have a track record which is supported by other guys with good reputation you don’t need to post them. Their acceptance of you is proof. You can also read lay reports here on my website and (I hope) that my posts and other tweets show you I understand the game and can explain what happened and what I’m doing.

I’m sure that there’ll be some people reading this who feel threatened, after all I’m suggesting to take away their drug, because don’t get me wrong: narcissistic supply is a drug. Here’s my challenge to anyone reading this post and who is still protective of their +1’s:

Next time you get laid, don’t tell anyone. Don’t post a +1.

And for the next three weeks, don’t talk about your sessions, leads, dates and (any) lays. If someone asks about how you’re doing or how a date went just say “it was okay,” shrug and leave it at that.

See if you feel like something is missing. As if the experience is incomplete. If it is, it means you’ve been captured by the dopamine pathways and that you’re addicted to the praise of faceless Twitter accounts

Yours unfaithfully,

Thomas Crown

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