I’ve been having a mishmash of thoughts recently about what makes a great Daygamer. I’m not talking about looks, their ability to follow a model or even their likeability. I’m talking about how their brain works at a deep level and how it’s conducive to being successful. These are the factors which would suggest a level of potential. I’ve talked about dopaminergic people and those who have avoidant attachment styles on various podcasts (including on my Patreon) and in today’s short post I want to address the mindset of “You Can Just Do Things” (YCJDT).
The opposite of someone who just does things is someone who scores highly on neuroticism. Neuroticism is one of the big five personality traits. Apparently you can break down people’s personalities into just five traits and these are:
- Conscientiousness
- Agreeability
- Neuroticism
- Openness to Experience
- Extroversion
As you can see, I’ve aligned them as a helpful acronym: CANOE.
When I encounter a student with high neuroticism, I see something interesting: they spend a lot of time thinking over their decisions but it doesn’t ever seem to improve the decision itself. It’s moreso that they dwell on the choice for a long time before suddenly taking a random action.
What would I much rather see? Someone who acts first and thinks later. Someone who knows that bad choices can be apologised for (within reason so don’t try to strawman me). Someone who acts as if everything is permitted as long as it’s not expressly forbidden, rather than someone who acts as if everything is forbidden unless expressly permitted. Ultimately, someone who pushes the envelope. Someone who is willing to take little risks and always tries to get a little bit more than they deserve and believes that doing so is everyone’s right.
I’ll give an example: I got a puppy last August and knew that my building didn’t allow dogs. What can I say? I’ve always wanted one and the stars aligned for me to get one. I took a risk knowing that it could lead to a complication down the line. Some people would call me irresponsible. Others would say it was a calculated risk: the building might have a certain rule which isn’t really enforced, for example. Or maybe someone who didn’t like dogs who would have reported me to the building managers would make an allowance because they liked me or something. Either way, I made the choice because it was something that I wanted and had full conviction that any future issues would come out in the wash.
So maybe that’s where I want to end this post: push the envelope, do what you want to do and have a deep seated belief that life will work out for you in the long run. If you want to learn to do the same, click the links below.
Yours unfaithfully,
Thomas Crown
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