If you’re not keeping statistics, you’re doing something wrong.
One of the most potent weapons in an intermediate’s arsenal is his statistics, vis-a-vis, a rough estimate of his ability, and without them he’s largely flailing. You need them to see where your bottlenecks are, from open to lay, and then where to direct your learning efforts. This post is going to explain what I record, how, and what I’ll be changing next year for my record keeping. At the end of 2017 I’ll release my 2016-17 stats (I started in October 2016).
The first question is “what”. At the most simple level, you could count your approaches and lays. The approach to lay ratio is the magic number for intermediates, but that’s only the start of the rabbithole. From there you can record number closes, social media closes, how many respond to the initial feeler, i-dates, dates, kisses (on the dates), and bouncebacks. Currently I record:
- Number closes
Although in the past I have also recorded everything but bouncebacks, and in a somewhat vainglorious fashion: SDLs.
As you add in more levels to the statistics, you are able to see with greater ability where your bottlenecks are. You could even include a section purely for the street, measuring how many girls stopped, how many hooked, what your stack was etc; I could see that being particularly useful for beginners or for an intermediate who had a high approach to number close ratio.
As you’re gathering your data, you’ll also want to be measuring the ratios from step to step. Seeing how many approaches for a number, how many numbers for a date, etc. I use spreadsheets to keep my data (more on this later), and the ratios I track are:
- Approaches:Closes i.e. how many approaches for one number
- Responses/Closes (%) i.e. what proportion of girls respond to the feeler
- Dates/Responses (%) i.e. what proportion of responses will turn into dates
- Lays/Dates (%) i.e. what proportion of dates will turn into lays
- I use percentages for most of these because I’m aiming for the figures below, rather than thinking to myself if I approach X girls today I will get 0.0… lays.
This will allow you to see where your bottlenecks are. Some useful statistics to know are that you want Responses/Closes = ~50% and that at most you will be able to achieve Lays/Dates = ~50%. I got those figures from Tom Torero’s content and I imagine they’re meant to be taken as signals: if you are surpassing these numbers you should try faster escalation or aim for higher quality.
The last point is that I split the approaches into blocks and recommend you have a different document for each 1000 sets. I keep my long term ratios, but for my first 1000 sets I also measured everything per 200 sets, and for 1001-2000 I’m recording 1001-1350, 1351-1700 and 1701-2000. By splitting up your 1000 sets into smaller blocks, you can see how your ratios have progressed over time.
Now the question is “how”. I record everything on the street on a notes app on my phone, and then onto spreadsheets which I also have loaded onto my phone. I update them immediately after my Daygame sessions and dates so it’s perfect for the train ride back home. I’ve purposefully made it as convenient as possible to record my stats. They allow for instant updating of your ratios and I’ve also added some conditional formatting so that the numbers are red, amber, and yellow, based on their current values.
If such meticulous record keeping is not for you, then you can go as simple as a pen and piece of paper, just recording your approaches and lays. Remember, if you’re not keeping stats, you’re never going to be as good as you could be. Even for a person who thinks that “they’re just not that kind of person”, you can still do addition and division. If not, you’ve got bigger problems than getting better at Daygame and your SMV may benefit greater via primary school Mathematics.
For 2018 I’ll be adding in bouncebacks to my stats, re-adding kisses, and removing responses. The main concentration being on becoming an incredibly efficient dater. I want to see: what proportion of girls were timewasters; what proportion kissed but didn’t bounceback indicating over-escalation on the date (assuming I didn’t have another date); and lastly, how many bounced back but I didn’t fuck showing my success at breaking LMR. By April 2018, I expect to have a decent dataset and can direct my learning.
I’ll be removing responses simply because I don’t like opening the spreadsheet each and every time I get a response to my feelers; sometimes I forget to update it making this figure the least reliable, whereas the other numbers are 99% reliable and of course, the lays are 100% reliable.
I only count the approach if she at least gives me a shot to show my value. I say to myself, if it was DiCaprio stopping her would he have got her number. If I think “yes”, then I count it. That means abrupt blowouts don’t count.
I count dates as “girls who come on dates”. So if I had two first dates, that would be entered as two, but if I had two dates with one girl, that would stay as one.