D.A.V.E. Dating (Date Structuring Part 2)

I’m sitting down at my family’s dining table, sipping a cold beer, back in the home I grew up in. Last time I was here, I was itching to write and their choice of TV has driven me here again.

One of my very first blog posts was on structuring dates. Much like how we use the London Daygame Model to structure our daytime cold approaches, I’m trying to build something similar for my own dates on top of the instruction that is already out there. I came up with a list of questions to ask yourself and just thought of a handy mnemonic to aid in preparation:

  • Dates
  • Aim
  • Venues
  • Escalation

To recap, and using yesterday’s date report as an example:


How many dates do you think this girl will need for sex? For the German girl, I thought two or three.


What is your aim for each date? In this example the aim for the first date was to set the polarity and confirm that it was a date. For the second date I’ll be going for the bounceback but would only go for a third if it was a confirmed sex date (something like we agree to a film at mine).


How many venues will you use? For the first date I would use two venues, one non-alcoholic and one alcoholic. The second date would be two alcoholic venues.


What’s the escalation plan in each venue? For the first date it was comfort chit-chat, then some light verbal and physical escalation in venue two. For the second date it will be heavier physical escalation and re-establish the kiss, then the Questions Game and close proximity for the second.

I’ll report back, no matter the outcome.

Yours unfaithfully,

Thomas Crown

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