Daygame Robots, Rejection and Hibernation

We’ve all been there: over-caffeinated, eyeballs bulging out of their sockets, industrial quantities of pussy repellant seeping out of our gas exhausts. You’ve been approaching relentlessly for weeks on end, probably driven by promises that your “conviction will max out if you approach every single day.” If you find yourself in this situation then you are only ever going to get the girls you absolutely should be getting anyway. You’ll bounce from set to set, with each blowout and startled reaction sending you further into a deep, dark hole. Well done: you’re a Daygame robot.

My response was to say:

“I’d go as far as saying that it’s good if 10 straight rejections bother you, because it shows you’re still human and not a Daygame robot (and girls don’t like the latter).”

Over time, rejection becomes less impactful. After all, it’s easy to reason that it shouldn’t: what should one person’s opinion matter to you given you knew them for all of two seconds and will never see them again? But you should never want the sting of rejection to go away completely, because if it does – and there’s no better way to put it – there’s something wrong with you.

If this post has one resounding message it’s this: if you find yourself in a state matching the first paragraph of this post, you need to take a break. Your results will thank you for it. If you Daygame too much then you become inured to the rejection and you get that thousand yard stare which creeps girls out. It’s like being approached by an uncanny valley Daygamer: a photo realistic recreation of a player which looks right but there’s the 0.01% missing, and so it feels wrong. So very wrong.

As Tom Torero would say, “the girl is your mirror,” and so if you’re making girls feel weird, then you’re probably weird too. And I urge guys to take this seriously as well because a) you’re giving street pick-up a bad name and possibly ruining that girl for a future Daygamer (imagine that the Daygame area is like a field which has to be tended to), and b), once Game becomes a big part of your life then success with women can become the gold standard for defining success; it’s likely that if women don’t feel good about you then you probably won’t feel good about yourself either.

If you want an analogy to the gym, it’s overtraining. If I do too many consecutive days of weight lifting and cardio then I notice that my sleep suffers (this has happened to me a couple of times before and coincided with dieting and doing a tonne of steps too). It’s ironic, because you’d expect that I would want to sleep more if I was working harder, but I was at a point where I was stressing my body so much that it was always on high alert. With poor sleep my workouts suffered. The good thing is/was that I identified the problem quickly and by taking a day off from training my sleep quality quickly returned.

Bringing this back to Daygame robots: if you approach too much you will find that your AA will decrease to a point where it’s barely noticeable, which will make you think to approach more. More approaches equals more lays, after all! Right? Wrong. You’ve lost the spark in your eyes.

This is one of the reasons why I like to hibernate each winter.

I could feel my desire to start my yearly break from Daygame last December. At that time I started to feel that I was going out more because of FOMO than because I really wanted to. I started coaxing myself out just so that I could throw out a shitty set to get a false sense of accomplishment, before quickly finishing my Daygame route and heading home. I knew I was going to hibernate during January and February anyway, so it was just a matter of time until it began. Once I’d come to terms with the fact that it was just FOMO, I let myself hang up my Daygame boots for the year.

I like to take this time off because it gives my mind a chance to rest. Daygame stimulates your dopamine a lot and doing it too much will make your stores run low (which I admit is pure broscience, just like the rest of Game). If you don’t have much dopamine to spare, then you won’t feel enthusiasm. Girls can sense this. All in all, it’s better to have a little bit of nervous excitement than to be an ice cold approach machine.

Yours unfaithfully,

Thomas Crown

P.S. if you’re still in the first 18 months of your Daygame journey, then don’t hibernate. I recommend beginners Daygame consistently through their first winter so as not to lose their progress. However, if you find yourself turning into a Daygame Robot, it’s still okay to take a few days off to recover your spark.

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