I did a couple of hour’s infield coaching this weekend with a guy named Callum (who knows I’m writing this post). We’d talked over a Skype consultation a few week’s prior and he’d decided to pay for some infield coaching as well. The two hours turned out to be a perfect timeframe for me to identify some of his sticking points and give him a plan going forward. If you’re interested in some coaching yourself then follow the link at the top of the page or those at the bottom of each post. Today I’m going to go over what we covered during the session, but remember, and I stressed this during the session, that these lessons can only sink in given time. I can identify your sticking point but then you need to be consistent and put in the work required to fix the issues.
To begin with I let Callum do a couple of sets so I could watch him in action and start to get an idea for what he might need to work on. I told him we would put “first things first” and work on his Daygame sets in time based chunks: things affecting the first ten seconds, things affecting the first two minutes and things affecting the remainder of the set.
I highlighted that the first ten seconds are the most important part of every set, so we looked especially at him getting his stops correct. Callum was coming in a bit too close and being a bit too loud and the girls were jumping as he was opening them. To counter that I advised that he come in at an arm’s length and to turn the volume down just a little bit. What was interesting in Callum’s case was that he’d taken the “be dominant” advice completely to heart and perhaps swung too far in that direction. That meant it was my job to pull him back a little bit in the opposite direction and inject more warmth into his approach, as opposed to emphasising dominance and power.
Next up, as we got deeper into some sets, we could work on the first two minutes. I especially noticed that while Callum wasn’t too far away, he wasn’t close enough either, and so specifically advised him to offer his hand and take a half step towards the girl while he did as Krauser recommends. This segued nicely into the point I made to him that Game isn’t so much about being spectacular, but more about being normal with some spice added in, and that his intent was going to come from doing things like that, plus his eye contact.
Lastly, we talked a bit about the remainder of his sets. His verbals were quite good, he was good at flirting, and so I reassured him that his “chat” was good and that he could even throw more comfort in if he wanted to. This seemed to be a specific point of interest for Callum, as it was for me when I was earlier on in my Daygame journey: that you feel like each set needs to be very flirty and you have to be completely on point with your verbals. In reality (as I said earlier), it’s much more about simply adding spice to normality.
As well as the above advice, I really wanted to convey how I’d structure a typical Daygame session, and commented on how many sets he should work his way up to, how to conserve his energy throughout a session, and how to spot IOIs. This is something I stress during coaching sessions, because it’s not just about how to do a great set, it’s also about how to incorporate Daygame successfully into your day/life and not get burned out.
Before parting ways Callum and I talked a bit about consistency and I gave him my advice on working his way up to 25-30 sets a week and when and where he could do them. We also briefly discussed style, and I recommended he picked up a couple of simple accessories, and perhaps undid another button on his shirt. My message in this case was that you want to get girls thinking that you’re the “real deal” and that you can’t just put a leather jacket (not that that was Callum’s style on the day) on a guy and turn him into Mr. Daygame.
Then I went and watched Chelsea win the Champions League final, so overall it was a great day.
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