On Sunday I went on a first date with a Russian girl named Eva who I had closed mid-week. She was a proper gothic looking girl in all black and a streak of blue in her otherwise pitch black hair. I was a bit confused in set, because she talked like there was no tomorrow … Continue reading 17/30: Date Report: Russian Existentialist
16/30: Mate Guarding
I was talking with a friend yesterday who had recently entered a monogamous relationship. We talked for a long time about how it was making him feel, because he expected it to make him a lot happier than it currently was. I ended up telling him: “The ironic thing is that mate guarding is a … Continue reading 16/30: Mate Guarding
15/30: Beginners’ Truths
I was out coaching a guy a few weeks ago (don’t get excited, I’m starting small, very small), and we were talking about one of my recent dates. I told him that I didn’t go for the bounce home because I didn’t think that it was on. He replied by asking me which circumstances would … Continue reading 15/30: Beginners’ Truths
14/30: Pleasant
Whereas usually I’d compose a blog post from the comfort of my own home, sipping a black coffee which began life in a cafetiere, today I’m writing from my office. It’s a bank holiday but I’m still working, which means that the cafetiere has been replaced by a white americano from Pret. That last sentence … Continue reading 14/30: Pleasant
12/30: Advice for Mid-Twenties Guys
On the same day that Mazz and I had the conversation about London going full r, we also tried to come up with some advice for guys in their early and mid-twenties to make them appear older than they are. As I’ve rattled on about before, your age puts you at a disadvantage for what … Continue reading 12/30: Advice for Mid-Twenties Guys
13/30: Goal Ruminations
These were my two main 2018 goals: One lay in 50 approaches Two lays a month Ambitious goals, as I’m sure you will agree, for someone in their second full year of pickup. But at the start of the year, they seemed reasonable to me. My long term average was somewhere around one lay in … Continue reading 13/30: Goal Ruminations
11/30: Classical vs Romantic Thinking
Here’s an excerpt from the second draft of my upcoming memoir, Demolition Lovers. Progress has retarded enormously; the task of redrafting a whole chapter when I return from work just seems too daunting. I need to kick myself up the arse. This is a concept which I think I’ll be bringing up a lot in … Continue reading 11/30: Classical vs Romantic Thinking
10/30: Minimising Yad Stops
This is something I’ve been trying recently, having been inspired by Krauser’s post on hook point and Philander’s mini-series on his residential with him: whenever possible, don’t do the Yad stop. Meaning: if she gives me an IOI before I go into set I’ll yell “excuse me!” as loudly as possible to get her attention. … Continue reading 10/30: Minimising Yad Stops
9/30: Disgust
This leads on from yesterday’s bulletin on Jordan Peterson. One of the biggest revelations I’ve had from consuming his material is finding out about how conscientiousness links to disgust. Now I can’t stop seeing it everywhere I look. There’s the classic kind of disgust, the kind you feel for something unhygienic. But there’s another kind … Continue reading 9/30: Disgust
8/30: My Thoughts on Jordan Peterson
To confirm: I like him. I think it was natural that I would get on-board with his message considering that I’ve read about Jung, archetypes, and the monomyth before even hearing about him. I’m currently working my way through his podcasts and also through his lecture series, albeit at a slower pace. I’ve not read … Continue reading 8/30: My Thoughts on Jordan Peterson
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